Tell me I’m not the only one that sits and wonders what the days of some of my friends and or family members looks like? I often wonder how they do it. How they start their days and end them. Do they clean endlessly like I feel like I do? What do their nap times or quiet times of the day look like? Am I the only one who selfishly does nothing during nap time? We need it, right? I know I do…or so I think.
I don’t want to fall into the trap of comparison. I don’t want to feel like I need to have my house ready for Martha Stewart to stop by at any moment and feel comfortable enough to prop her feet up…because you know, that could happen. I don’t want my children to feel like they can’t be kids and play with their toys because mommy just spent the day picking up the house.
I also don’t want to lead on as if I’ve got it all together. I’m the best procrastinator around. I’ll tell you how I manage that later. I’m so good at getting behind on laundry. I’m absolutely one to believe the lies of the enemy when I think, “If I could just catch up on all the house work I could spend a little more time relaxing with the kids”. I believe that lie and spend my mornings cleaning as much as I can while my little Ellie entertains herself.
The truth is, I never seem to be caught up. I never get all the laundry done. I never get all the house work accomplished. I never spend enough time with my precious family. I do, however, sometimes find myself running ragged and overwhelming myself trying to “keep up”. Trying to do all the things. Trying to be at all the places. Trying to expose the kids to activities to see what they are drawn to. Most weeks we only have 1-2 nights that aren’t filled up with some sort of activity (home group, practice, get togethers). But here’s the kicker, when I change my perspective and look at it from a different angle I don’t feel like we have a ton of things going on.
The two older kids each play a sport which means there are 1-3 nights of practice total each week. Practices are a good time for us to all go together as a family if we are able to. We can play at the park while the practice is going on. Monday nights are home group night (Shawn and I do our best to keep this night open so we can have some much needed truth filled time with our community). There are usually 1-3 sports games each week between the two older kids. The weekends are typically spent with friends. We are so blessed to do life with the community we’ve been given. Spending time with one another is refreshing and something everyone looks forward to.
That’s it. Baseball, soccer, church group, community…not bad. When I list it out it seems so minimal. When I’m in the moment of trying to keep up, it’s overwhelming. When I feel God’s gentle reminder to slow down and find the joy in the moment it changes things. His word is clear that we can find Him and joy in every moment. In every situation, *Paul lays his experience with this out there for us in the book of Philippians. Even when we feel like we just can’t do anymore. It’s easier to find when we have His words stored up in our hearts ready to go at any moment. I’m still learning how to do this but can see its benefits as I grow and continue to dive deeper into the word.
When I’m overwhelmed I sound like a drill sergeant.
- “Pick that up.”
- “Hurry, hurry, hurry” (normally I try to say “quick feet”. It just sounds better 🙂 )
- “No you can’t have that”
- “No you can’t do that”
- “No you can’t have a healthy snack” (What?? My kids ask for healthy snacks and I tell them no for no good reason other than I don’t want to say yes. Sheesh)
When I change my perspective and my heart is overflowing my tone changes just a little. I’m quick to say yes to time with my kids and no to the chore list. I sit and enjoy a healthy snack with my kiddos. I let my Adalyn skip quiet time and will sit down to color with her. I fix Mr. Overton a drink for when he walks in the door after a long day at work or I put the kids to bed so he can have a free evening.
I fail at this daily. DAILY! I might grumble every now and then at having to do certain things. But God never fails to meet me where I am. To lift me up with His truth. To make His presence known in every moment. So, my days might look different from my friends and family. I’m ok with that. We all accomplish something at the end of the day; some more than others. We all parent and do life differently. We all nurture our families differently. And I’m ok with that. My ways works for me. Their ways work for them. Your ways work for you. Let’s embrace the differences and celebrate getting through the days. Because, let’s face it…some days are hard!
Which one are you? Overwhelmed or overflowing? I love it when I’m overflowing and I want more of it. When do you feel God filling your cup? Recognize it and then do more of whatever that is for you. If there is a to-do list nagging at you to be completed just forget about it. It can wait.
So here you go. A little glimpse into my days.
My days start at 4:20 am on MWF when I wake up to be at the gym by 5. I do a Body Pump class on MW and cardio HIIT routine on the treadmill and stair master on Fridays.
Breakfast. I’m currently loving vanilla honey greek yogurt with chia seeds and grapefruit.
I then try to get my quiet time in before the kids wake up but that doesn’t always happen. Sometimes I have to do it during Ellie’s nap time.
I always try to get at least one load of laundry washed and put away each day. I’ve been getting into this habit for a while now and it truly makes laundry easier. I don’t find myself behind as much!
I follow the Clean Mama house keeping method. This particular day was bathroom day…my least favorite because I have 3 to clean. #firstworldproblems As you can see I didn’t try to make my house look perfect because it NEVER is. I also realize we have multiple light bulbs to replace.
I keep these wipes in each bathroom to quickly wipe down the counters, sinks, knobs and light switches. It makes things easy and quick.
Afternoons are filled with picking up kids from school and if it’s nice we have a snack outside.
We have a couple of practices or games a week. This girl is a natural athlete…she picks up on things so fast!
I really try to cook most of our meals. I am a fan of meals that can be made in large portions and eaten for multiple meals.
Our day ends with the kids relaxing while watching a show to calm down or some sort of individual time. It always looks different depending on the night and how tired we are ;).
So there you have it. I hope this gives you some encouragement to change your perspective and actively find the joy in every moment if you are feeling overwhelmed. You aren’t alone!
May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit. Romans 15:13